I would like to make goals for myself for this year instead of resolutions. I don't know why, but goals are more attainable and I feel like I hold myself more accountable than a resolution that I made.
So here are my 2019 goals:
Have more patience with my children. The girls are 4 years old and let me tell you that the last year has been hard. Everyone says it is the terrible twos, but I felt like it was way harder with the 3 year old stage. I know 4 is going to be hard, but I am hoping that it is easier than 3.
So this year, I want to learn to have more patience with my children. I feel like I ask them to do something and they completely ignore me. I ask again and nothing. I ask about 4 to 5 times before I lose my cool and yell at them to do it. That is when they cry and eventually do it. I just want to foster more patience in myself.
Date my husband. As our days go by, I realize that our lives are so focused on our children that we forget about our significant others. Sure, we had date nights last year and they were amazing, but I want to try to have more date nights. Even if that is putting the girls to bed early and having a dinner date at home with just my husband. Or planning out date nights that are fun and interactive. I want to do at least one date night out each month and one date night in each month.
Purge and declutter. I have seen this same goal in a lot of people's lists, but it is something I try to achieve each year. I want to "Spring clean" more than just in the Spring. I want to go through our clothes, the girls toys and anything that we may not need anymore. I saw this cool idea of turning our hangers backwards with all of your hang up clothes. If at the end of the year, you still have clothes that are on a backwards hanger, donate them as you never wore them.
I also want to go through the drawers in the kitchen that are in desperate need of purging. Basically just go through the house and declutter.
Strengthen my friendships. Just like dating my husband, I want to put more effort into my friendships. I want to check in with my friends more. I want to have more girls nights. I just want to strengthen my friendships to where they were before kids and more responsibility. It will take more effort, but a simple text or phone call can go really far.
Read more. I see so many of my blogger friends reading 50 plus books year. While I don't think I can attain 50 books, I just want to read more.
What are your 2019 goals?
I need to practice patience with E too. Its so hard because I just want thinsg done and not tears or whining, right?
ReplyDeleteI hate the tears and whining. I sooo would love that to stop.
DeleteGreat goals. Raising twins is hard work. I totally need more patience but it doesn't come naturally to me but I'm working on it. I too need to declutter my house. It has gotten out of control and I have to do something about it. All the clutter is driving me crazy.
ReplyDeleteIsn’t it amazing the people who can read more than 50 bucks a year. I’m lucky if I get through one or two a month! But I too want to read more. The purging and decluttering has begun!
ReplyDeleteSame. I can get through one or two and that is it. I wish I had more time to read and I am definitely making more this year.
DeleteI think it's great that you want to reach out to friends more, and date your husband more! All things that help us USUALLY be happier people. I hope you can start to read more too! I do love reading, but I don't have kids, so I know how that would limit a lot of time.
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Yes they are. I wish I could read more and I am trying to get more books in this year. You are awesome and read a ton.
DeleteI love the goal of dating your spouse - I told my husband we have to get back to our dating mindset! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston
ReplyDeleteIt is hard when you have kids, but we need to do it. It is sooo healthy to.
DeleteI'm literally with you to a T here! Cheers to 2019 and a better us/year!
ReplyDeleteWell at least I am not alone. Cheers to a better us and year!!!
DeleteI love the Date My Husband... as parents, its so important - & a perfect example for your girls to see what marriage is & what to look for in a good man.
ReplyDeleteAll these goals are great - I am definitely with you on purging and decluttering, and working on friendships!!! They are so important and sometimes with everything else going on, they can fall to the wayside.
ReplyDeleteI'm right there with you on patience. That's on my list for this year, too. And with Jacob four was way worse than three. With Olivia it's been about the same. Once they hit five, you're golden, though! Then we just have to worry about the looming teenage years... EEK!
ReplyDeleteI found myself nodding as I read through your goals. Those are all things I want to work on, too!
ReplyDeleteI do that hanger trick every year - it works so well!! And with patience - totally hear you. I still need to practice it with Sadie and she's almost 7! I've learned though to make sure I really get her attention I make sure she's making eye contact with me and I also make her repeat back what I said so she fully hears/grasps it. Definitely helps!
ReplyDeleteI'm always amazed at how much reading some other bloggers get done. Hoping to amp up my reading game this year, and also more patience for my sweet two year old who also loooooves to fuss and now say no <3
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Patience!!! Oh yes! I need to work on that as well, it's hard sometimes.
ReplyDeleteThese are great goals, and ones I'm sure you can achieve! I especially love carving out time for your husband and friends.
ReplyDeleteI also hope that 2019 involves more dating! My little guy will be weaned soon...so that should help, haha! I think your goals are really practical, and doesn't purging and decluttering your home always feel so good?
ReplyDeleteI noticed with all my nieces that 3 was the hard year. It will get better, 6 is like magic! 2 more years! I think these are all great goals! I want to read more too.
ReplyDeleteYup, I'm with you on a ton of these! Lots of luck this year!
ReplyDeleteI agree with so many of these! Here's to making 2019 our best year yet :)
ReplyDeleteI'm in alignment with SO many of these goals -- especially the friendship one! I'm realizing how important this is as I've gotten older -- it's not as easy to see friends or make new ones!
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