I had every intention on coming here and writing a weekend update like usual, but now I can't. Sure our weekend was pretty good, but it ended on a tough note.
We had a pizza date night on Friday, we went to the local Discovery Museum on Saturday and took the girls to the trampoline park on Sunday. But we also lost a beautiful soul yesterday. Rory's aunt passed away yesterday morning very unexpectedly. To say we are devastated is an understatement.
She was the family patriarch. She brought everyone together. From family reunions to fun dress-up Thanksgivings, she was the center of it all. She taught us about essential oils, cooked many delicious meals and told the best stories. Her wedding story will forever be a favorite of mine.
I barely slept last night. I just kept thinking about her and all of our memories together.
Do you know how hard it is to explain death to 3 1/2 year olds? It is tough. They tell us over and over that auntie Gail died or that she passed away, but I don't think they fully grasp that they will never see her again. It is hard to explain to them that they will never see her body again, that her soul went to Heaven and she is no longer here with us. It is heartbreaking. The girls loved their great aunt and she loved them very much.
I may share some photos from our weekend in another post, but for today I just want to take a minute to myself.
Monday, July 9, 2018
Wednesday, March 30, 2016
My Heart Hurts
So I took a day off from blogging yesterday to gather my thoughts and just have a day to process everything.
Monday started off crazy with a bad commute into work. The snow let up and I was able to have a partially clear drive back to Reno. I had a follow-up post op and my incision and belly are looking really good. My swelling is down, my belly button is in, the numbness is getting better and the pain is lessening each day.
I then ran out to get the girls diapers and yogurt. They were out of both at daycare. Then I treated myself to a facial. I was going to cancel it since I could save the money (and need to, hello taxes), but I have been really stressed lately and Rory told me to keep the appointment.
I came home, cooked dinner and we watched an episode of The Americans (we are two weeks behind). Then we decided to go to bed. It wasn't until we crawled into bed that Rory told me he had some bad news for me. He was going to wait until the morning, but couldn't hold it in any longer.
Horrible thoughts ran through my head, but they weren't even close to what he told me.
Rory's great aunt passed away that afternoon. He found out right after he got home from work and didn't want to ruin the rest of my day.
You know that amazing Mexico trip we are taking in less than two weeks? That was the trip we were going to go visit Rory's great aunt, introduce her to our girls (she sees pictures all the time) and enjoy the Mexican sun.
And now she is gone. Now my girls won't get to meet her, I won't hear her crazy stories or have an afternoon cocktail with her (something we have done on every visit with her out on the deck).
Mare' was an amazing woman. I may have only gotten to spend a few weeks with her in my lifetime, but she has forever made an impression on my life.
Rory's parents were flying out Friday to have a week with Mare (his great aunt) and Conrad before we arrived. They are still going to Mexico come Friday and will spend their time with Conrad, make the necessary arrangements and figure things out. I wasn't sure if we were going to go anymore, but Rory's parents and Conrad still want us to go. It may be our last time to stay in Mare and Conrad's other condo and we want to celebrate Mare. It will still be an amazing Mexico vacation, but there will be a huge piece missing.
So while she may not be my immediate family, her passing has hit me like a ton of bricks. My heart hurts for her and Rory's family.
Rory wrote a FB update and he said it perfectly...
Monday started off crazy with a bad commute into work. The snow let up and I was able to have a partially clear drive back to Reno. I had a follow-up post op and my incision and belly are looking really good. My swelling is down, my belly button is in, the numbness is getting better and the pain is lessening each day.
I then ran out to get the girls diapers and yogurt. They were out of both at daycare. Then I treated myself to a facial. I was going to cancel it since I could save the money (and need to, hello taxes), but I have been really stressed lately and Rory told me to keep the appointment.
I came home, cooked dinner and we watched an episode of The Americans (we are two weeks behind). Then we decided to go to bed. It wasn't until we crawled into bed that Rory told me he had some bad news for me. He was going to wait until the morning, but couldn't hold it in any longer.
Horrible thoughts ran through my head, but they weren't even close to what he told me.
Rory's great aunt passed away that afternoon. He found out right after he got home from work and didn't want to ruin the rest of my day.
You know that amazing Mexico trip we are taking in less than two weeks? That was the trip we were going to go visit Rory's great aunt, introduce her to our girls (she sees pictures all the time) and enjoy the Mexican sun.
And now she is gone. Now my girls won't get to meet her, I won't hear her crazy stories or have an afternoon cocktail with her (something we have done on every visit with her out on the deck).
Mare' was an amazing woman. I may have only gotten to spend a few weeks with her in my lifetime, but she has forever made an impression on my life.
Rory's parents were flying out Friday to have a week with Mare (his great aunt) and Conrad before we arrived. They are still going to Mexico come Friday and will spend their time with Conrad, make the necessary arrangements and figure things out. I wasn't sure if we were going to go anymore, but Rory's parents and Conrad still want us to go. It may be our last time to stay in Mare and Conrad's other condo and we want to celebrate Mare. It will still be an amazing Mexico vacation, but there will be a huge piece missing.
So while she may not be my immediate family, her passing has hit me like a ton of bricks. My heart hurts for her and Rory's family.
Rory wrote a FB update and he said it perfectly...
Thursday, December 26, 2013
Losing A Friend
Today I found out a lifelong friend of mine passed away yesterday, on Christmas day. I am so bummed to hear this. I have known Candice since kindergarten. She was a kind and strong woman who fought Stage 4 Breast Cancer for the last two years.
When Candice was 28 she found out she had Stage IIB breast cancer. She went through treatment including a double mastectomy, but her cancer spread to her lymph nodes and into her bones. That is when her status was updated to Stage 4. She fought until the day she died, and yesterday she joined God and is no longer in pain.
I have been following her blog and facebook to see her progress. Read her story here. She was inspiring and a fighter. I feel blessed to have called her my friend.
When Candice was 28 she found out she had Stage IIB breast cancer. She went through treatment including a double mastectomy, but her cancer spread to her lymph nodes and into her bones. That is when her status was updated to Stage 4. She fought until the day she died, and yesterday she joined God and is no longer in pain.
I have been following her blog and facebook to see her progress. Read her story here. She was inspiring and a fighter. I feel blessed to have called her my friend.
RIP Candice Chilton
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